Hrm... how does your brand new husband feel about your brand new sister-in-law? (Please note, I have egearman and mithras as brothers. I do not believe in unconditional sibling love.)
I perfectly understand the brothers thing, if not the triplets bit. I have three brothers, approximately 7, 8 and 9 years younger than I am. The one 8 years younger is a biological full sibling, the other two my family more or less adopted around kindergarten and they lived with us pretty much through the beginning of them going to high school.
He loves his sister, although the way he describes it is that they get along better in inverse proportion to the distance between them. However, they were raised in New Hampshire by Californians. She came into our home (twice), told me how to raise my kids, keep my house, handle our finances, badmouthed my husband, informed me how the kids' financial futures will be handled, and informed us we would be getting a pre-nuptial agreement. Now she is upset with Dave because we invited her out for four days while we're having a housewarming weekend, same as everyone else we invited that was near enough to have a chance to make it, and she would like to stay six. Dave asked her to stay at their mother's house (about a 30/40 minute drive from here) for the two extra nights, and somehow this became Dave saying she wasn't welcome, which became my fault for existing, and we're horrible people because Dave specifically didn't ask her to be a bridesmaid at the real wedding yet (?!).
I don't really care how they do it in California or in New Hampshire. Where I was raised, all of that is incredibly rude.
Dave's a good husband. He loves his sister, but he stands up for his wife.
The brothers/triplet thing is simple. We like and hate each other all at the same time. mithras makes me laugh and I can't usually stand to be around him, kierthos needs to get a haircut and a real job.
I don't know any of the parties involved (well, other than kierthos, naturally) and that strikes me as not only tremendously rude, but just cause to never have her over again. Just my opinion on it.
How you raise your kids is up to you. How you keep your house is up to you (and the kids when they are old enough to help out). Finances, you and your husband. Financial futures, you and your husband and once again the kids when/if they are responsible enough (if only included because I have met some people in late 30's/early 40's who I wouldn't trust with paying bills if you filled out everything for them). Pre-nup, up to you and your husband. You both don't want it, you don't get it.
And her other option if she doesn't want to stay with her mom is to find a hotel.
"Guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days." -- Benjamin Franklin
And don't you get to choose the bridesmaids? I mean, the only time I've seen the groom get to pick a bridesmaid, the bride got to pick a groomsman.
I'll keep your description of multiples in mind. We have residential custody of Dave's twin five year old boys, so I'm learning quite a lot about that. :)
Yes, brides pick bridesmaids. Although Dave and I have so many close friends in common, we actually just sat down and figured out who was going on what side, more or less. It was kind of like the NFL draft, but more fun. When we have a venue and a better idea how big this thing is going to get, we'll start asking the wedding party if they want to be in or not.
I have used that same quote in regards to this woman before. Franklin was a wise man.
I can probably wait until it's available on the intertrons. It's not like I really know anyone who is going to A-Kon. I'd like to be there, but as I've never been to a convention more then a couple states away, it's unlikely that I'm ever going to be at an A-Kon.
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He loves his sister, although the way he describes it is that they get along better in inverse proportion to the distance between them. However, they were raised in New Hampshire by Californians. She came into our home (twice), told me how to raise my kids, keep my house, handle our finances, badmouthed my husband, informed me how the kids' financial futures will be handled, and informed us we would be getting a pre-nuptial agreement. Now she is upset with Dave because we invited her out for four days while we're having a housewarming weekend, same as everyone else we invited that was near enough to have a chance to make it, and she would like to stay six. Dave asked her to stay at their mother's house (about a 30/40 minute drive from here) for the two extra nights, and somehow this became Dave saying she wasn't welcome, which became my fault for existing, and we're horrible people because Dave specifically didn't ask her to be a bridesmaid at the real wedding yet (?!).
I don't really care how they do it in California or in New Hampshire. Where I was raised, all of that is incredibly rude.
Dave's a good husband. He loves his sister, but he stands up for his wife.
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No, fuck that, a lot more patience.
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I don't know any of the parties involved (well, other than kierthos, naturally) and that strikes me as not only tremendously rude, but just cause to never have her over again. Just my opinion on it.
How you raise your kids is up to you.
How you keep your house is up to you (and the kids when they are old enough to help out).
Finances, you and your husband.
Financial futures, you and your husband and once again the kids when/if they are responsible enough (if only included because I have met some people in late 30's/early 40's who I wouldn't trust with paying bills if you filled out everything for them).
Pre-nup, up to you and your husband. You both don't want it, you don't get it.
And her other option if she doesn't want to stay with her mom is to find a hotel.
"Guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days."
-- Benjamin Franklin
And don't you get to choose the bridesmaids? I mean, the only time I've seen the groom get to pick a bridesmaid, the bride got to pick a groomsman.
Apologies if I have intruded.
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I'll keep your description of multiples in mind. We have residential custody of Dave's twin five year old boys, so I'm learning quite a lot about that. :)
Yes, brides pick bridesmaids. Although Dave and I have so many close friends in common, we actually just sat down and figured out who was going on what side, more or less. It was kind of like the NFL draft, but more fun. When we have a venue and a better idea how big this thing is going to get, we'll start asking the wedding party if they want to be in or not.
I have used that same quote in regards to this woman before. Franklin was a wise man.
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Will be available to the intertrons on Monday, or you can have someone at A-Kon 19 (http://www.a-kon.com) get you one.
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You know, unless I win Powerball.